My Top First Dance Tunes

Sonys-New-Cassette-Tape-Holds-64750000-SongsDo you have an ‘our song’ or are you panicking that you don’t? Are you a stickler for tradition or would you like to shake things up a little at your wedding? Maybe your beloved didn’t make you a mix tape (Google ‘cassette tape’ young folk). Not every couple has a special song and not everyone wants to sway along to a Celine Dion power ballad for their first dance, and do you know what….that’s ok. Whatever tune you choose, you want it to be memorable, whether it’s for the heartfelt lyrics or for being the track that got everyone up and dancing.

But before you go off creating some John Legend / Elvis / One Direction mash-up, here’s my top twenty first dance tunes (in no particular order) featuring indie classics, soul greats, dance, rock ballads and the odd hipster one too:

Lets Stay Together – Al Green

Heroes – David Bowie

Bonnie & Clyde – Serge Gainsbourg & Brigitte Bardot

Thank You – Led Zeppelin

Sea of Love – Cat Power

One Step Beyond – Madness

First Day of My Life – Bright Eyes

You Got the Love – Candi Stanton

For Once in My Life – Stevie Wonder

Something – The Beatles

You and Me Song – The Wannadies

We Found Love – Rihanna

Tender – Blur

Happy – Pharrell Williams

Come Rain or Come Shine – Ray Charles

In my Life – The Beatles

Wild Horses – The Rolling Stones

Just the Way You Are – Billy Joel

Light and Day – Polyphonic Spree

Shiny Happy People – REM

I’ve tried to cover most bases, but I’m sure this is just the tip of the iceberg and narrowing it down to twenty tunes was very difficult. So whatever song you choose, get on the dance floor and cut some rug as only two new married types can. You can thank me later!

Faye x


Wedding love poems and verse

FullSizeRender (6)In my previous life as a professional wedding guest (this isn’t actually a profession, but it should be) my face has leaked many a tear when it comes to wedding poems and readings. I think I’ve been a guest at 25+ weddings thus far and that moment when someone reads aloud a love poem or verse, well call me an old romantic but that’s when time stands still and the bride and groom just radiate.

Ok so I’m in danger of crossing the cheese threshold here myself, ironic as I have been on a quest to cut through the fromage in web wedding land. But here are some poems, readings and song lyrics that made me think. They aren’t overtly romantic, or soppy, just simple expressions of love with one funny poem thrown in for good measure. These verses for me capture the nature of love without over doing it.

Eskimo Love Song
You are my husband, you are my wife
My feet shall run because of you
My feet dance because of you
My heart shall beat because of you
My eyes see because of you
My mind thinks because of you
And I shall love, because of you.

The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you… – By Maulana Jalalu’ddin Rumi
The minute I heard my first love story
I started looking for you,
Not knowing how blind that was.
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.
They’re in each other all along.
These I Can Promise
I cannot promise you a life of sunshine; I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold…
I cannot promise you a life of sunshine;
I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold;
I cannot promise you an easy pathway
That leads away from change or growing old.
But I can promise all my heart’s devotion;
A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow;
A love that’s ever true and ever growing;
A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.

Close close all night – By Elizabeth Bishop
Close close all night
the lovers keep.
They turn together
in their sleep,
close as two papers
in a book
that read each other
in the dark.
Each knows all
the other knows
learnt by heart
from head to toes.

I wanna Be Yours – By John Cooper Clarke
I wanna be your vacuum cleaner
breathing in your dust
I wanna be your Ford Cortina
I will never rust
If you like your coffee hot
let me be your coffee pot
You call the shots
I wanna be yours
I wanna be your raincoat
for those frequent rainy days
I wanna be your dreamboat
when you want to sail away
Let me be your teddy bear
take me with you anywhere
I don’t care
I wanna be yours
I wanna be your electric meter
I will not run out
I wanna be the electric heater
you’ll get cold without
I wanna be your setting lotion
hold your hair in deep devotion
Deep as the deep Atlantic ocean
that’s how deep is my devotion

Wild Awake – by Hilary T. Smith
People are like cities: We all have alleys and gardens and secret rooftops and places where daisies sprout between the sidewalk cracks, but most of the time all we let each other see is a postcard glimpse of a skyline or a polished square. Love lets you find those hidden places in another person, even the ones they didn’t know were there, even the ones they wouldn’t have thought to call beautiful themselves.

And hey, what’s wrong with referencing a good old fashioned prog rock ballad?

Thank You – By Led Zeppelin
If the sun refused to shine, I would still be loving you.
When mountains crumble to the sea, there will still be you and me.

Kind woman, I give you my all, Kind woman, nothing more.

Little drops of rain whisper of the pain, tears of loves lost in the days gone by.
My love is strong, with you there is no wrong,
together we shall go until we die. My, my, my.
An inspiration is what you are to me, inspiration, look… see.

And so today, my world it smiles, your hand in mine, we walk the miles,
Thanks to you it will be done, for you to me are the only one.
Happiness, no more be sad, happiness….I’m glad.
If the sun refused to shine, I would still be loving you.
When mountains crumble to the sea, there will still be you and me.

Or if you’re more a lover of folk:

First Day of My Life – By Bright Eyes
This is the first day of my life
Swear I was born right in the doorway
I went out in the rain, suddenly everything changed
They’re spreading blankets on the beach

Your’s is the first face that I saw
I think I was blind before I met you
Now I don’t know where I am
Don’t know where I’ve been
But I know where I want to go

And so I thought I’d let you know
That these things take forever
I especially am slow
But I realized that I need you
And I wondered if I could come home

Remember the time you drove all night
Just to meet me in the morning
And I thought it was strange
You said everything changed
You felt as if you’d just woke up

And you said, “This is the first day of my life
I’m glad I didn’t die before I met you
But, now I don’t care, I could go anywhere with you
And I’d probably be happy”

So if you wanna be with me
With these things there’s no telling
We’ll just have to wait and see
But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
Than waiting to win the lottery

Besides, maybe this time it’s different
I mean I really think you like me, me, me, me

It should be whatever speaks to you as a couple, whatever makes you smile (or cry) or whatever warms the cockles of your heart. Let me know what you think or what is your favourite love poem, reading or song? What did you have at your wedding?

Faye x

Summer Wedding Inspiration

Heady summer days (we’re getting there, honest!), Pimms on the lawn, and ice cream herald the summer wedding season and each season we see new and exciting trends come forth. On my travels through wedding world, I’ve come across some gorgeous trends and my summer wedding inspiration ideas are; leafy green botanicals, kitsch colour pops and edgy geometric shapes. Trawling through Pinterest to the point I felt I was organising my own wedding (I’m not btw), it’s clear to see that styling your wedding decor and getting the ‘look’ just right is very important…it’s not the be all and end all but there’s nothing wrong with wanting things to look pretty, right?


Luscious leafy greens add a beautiful ethereal outdoorsy theme to your wedding.  A kind of ‘new’ rustic using herbs, cacti, palms, mosses and succulents in everything from the bride’s bouquet, to plant pot wedding favours to edible flowers and fragrant herbs at the buffet table.
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And what about beautiful, bold, bright colour pops? Just hints here and there can make a real statement. Take a look at Jam and Tea’s retro props or yummy sprinkle laden doughnuts for ideas of where to add colour.  When it comes to bridesmaids, I just love the idea of muted tone dresses twinned with colour pop shoes and not forgetting the groomsmen…funky bright ties and button holes work a treat.
geometricsMoving on to geometrics, I adore Jam and Tea’s terrariums. Contrasting the hard edges of a terrarium and geometric shapes against luscious soft greenery and blooms adds another dimension to wedding decor. A funky mix of postmodern design, retro woodwork and beautiful botany….what’s not to love!

Happy Summer Wedding Season everyone!

Faye x

‘I’m feeling supersonic, give me gin and tonic’

Did you know that Britain is now the biggest exporter of gin in the world? Not surprising when dedicated gin bars are popping up all around the country.  Once the reserve of the debauched Victorian mother or great aunt Dotty’s afternoon tipple, gin has become the drink of choice for many a hip young thing.

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‘Plate III: The Orgy’ from William Hogarth’s ‘A Rake’s Progress 

Gin experienced it’s first big boom in the 18th century and was blamed for causing an epidemic of drunkeness and debauchery …how fabulous! But that aside ‘mother’s ruin’ has successfully shaken off the title and has undergone a makeover and come out the other side.  No longer the scourge of 18th century society, it’s now cool, hip and goes down a treat at social gatherings. But why so popular?  Is it because it’s a quintessentially British tipple or that it’s got this dark, debauched past…who cares…..hurray for gin!

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The juniper-based liquor is proving very popular when it comes to wedding receptions. Those lovely folk at Jam and Tea can cater for this with their customised pop-up ‘pimp-my-gin’ bar.  Owner, Maryanne says ‘Clients and guests ADORE our ‘pimp’ Bars. Gin being the top pick!  We set up and style the Bar with lots of lovely rustic style props including our light up ‘Pimp My Gin’ sign. Guests are then able to help themselves to a shot of Gin with optional tonic, ice and fresh garnishes such as: Mint, basil, rosemary, thyme, juniper, lavender, lemon, lime, black peppercorns, ginger, cucumber, strawberries and blueberries ~ pick your favourite combinations!’

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I need to get onboard with this gin lark, but having experienced a few messy run-ins involving gin and Doctor Martin boots in my youth, I’ve not dabbled until now.  I feel I’m missing out somewhat. I feel it’s time, so someone pass me a glass of your finest Professor Cornelius Ampleforth Bathtub Gin! Down the hatch!

"Of all the gin joints, in all the towns, in all the world, she walks into mine"

“Of all the gin joints, in all the towns, in all the world, she walks into mine”

Faye x






As featured in Doily Days Loves Weddings…

Is it weird that I’m not married or getting married but I enjoy nothing more than having a good old mooch through the pages of the fabulous Doily Days Loves Weddings magazine? Maybe I’m biased as I do occasionally write for the magazine and Helen, the Editor is a good friend, but I’ve been so impressed from the minute she announced “I’m going to publish a wedding magazine!”  Well she blooming well did it and three years down the line it’s going stronger than ever and has more alternative, kitsch, quirky, eclectic, vintage and unique wedding content you can shake a stick at.

Therefore, when I saw that Jam and Tea for whom I am now blogger extraordinaire, were the featured wedding caterer in the special limited edition bumper issue, I jumped for joy! The fancy double page spread features beautiful photographs  of Jam and Tea, by McKinley-Rodgers and Heline Bekker Photography, resplendent in all their kitsch catering glory.


The article talks about the beginnings of Jam and Tea and Maryanne’s (owner and director) background in pastry wizardry and her love of ‘cake, style and pretty…’. Plus there’s news of their new pizza ovens serving up both savoury and sweet pizzas and about how Maryanne’s own Mr Right is a dab hand at in-house carpentry and electricals for all the quirky props on hire.

To see the full article in all it’s glory, purchase your copy of Doily Days from their website or pick up a copy from an eclectic wedding fair near you.

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Faye x

New Look Website and New Blogger to Boot.

New to Jam and Tea is me! I’m Faye, the new Jam and Tea blogger in residence as it were. I’ll be blogging about weddings, afternoon tea, styling, food and all things gloriously retro…you get the picture? It’s my mission to keep you posted on Jam and Tea’s delectable services, news, weddings, event styling and more. I’m thrilled to be part of what’s in store for Jam and Tea in 2016.


It’s exciting times as Maryanne launches her shiny new website and adds fabulous festival street food and a perfect pimp-my-gin bar to their expanding menu of services. So, for a relaxed do where you want your guests to mingle while they chow down, Jam and Tea offer a street food menu of warming bowl foods like curries, chilli’s and tagines or full on comfort food, mac n cheese, hot dogs and handcrafted gourmet burgers. There’s the option of lush wood-fired pizzas too.5c6065_9ce5a00218324918bdcc7e7edf5a82de

The Pimp-my-Gin bar is a sure fired show-stopper where guests are able to help themselves to a shot of gin and then ‘pimp’ it right up with a choice of fresh garnishes such as; mint, basil, rosemary, thyme, juniper, lavender, to name a few. Cool right? A light up Pimp my Gin bar sign adds a touch of kitsch to the proceedings as do the stripy straws and rustic style props. A unique way to style up your own ‘cocktail hour’.

This is just the beginning of what is set to be an exciting year for Jam and Tea, Bespoke Catering & Event Styling and like I said, I’m thrilled to be part of it. In my previous life I ran my own vintage and makers fair business, Johnny Loves June, dabbled in magazine publishing with the Vintage Directory Brighton & Hove and wrote features for the fabulous Doily Days Loves Weddings magazine. After a break to have my second child, I am now a self-employed social media bod, writing blogs, features and web content. I feel I know a thing or two about what makes a good wedding after being a part of near on 25 weddings during my long career as a professional guest. It’s not a real job but it blooming well should be! I own a 1977 VW campervan, love things a little bit retro, a little bit quirky, a little bit kitsch. I love food, weddings, writing, and the 1960’s. I love coffee, the seaside, sunshine, books, red lippy and a good beehive.


Watch this space for more Jam and Tea blog posts coming soon.

Faye x

Under my umbrella ……Ella..ella

Want something different this year? Something little bit quirky? Well… … I might have the answer for you. Recently I was playing around with umbrellas and then the thought hit me why not make a Christmas wreath with it.
 What you will need are the following :

A bunch of cocktail umbrellas 

A foam wreath ( purchased from hobby crafts)

A piece of ribbon to hang it up


                                                 Merry Christmas everyone !!!!!





Autumn Is Here

That time of year has come around ever so fast this year.

Falling leaves, spiced lattes, a few extra layers, pumpkins and not to forget Hot chocolate !!!


Want to know how to make Marshmallows to add a little extra to a hot cup of coco ?

Well you came to the right place !!!!!



Homemade Marshmallow

Serves: Approx. 36 one inch square marshmallows
2 Tbsp unflavored powdered gelatin
½ C cold water
1 C granulated sugar
½ C light corn syrup, divided
¼ C water
pinch of salt
1 tsp pure vanilla extract
½ cup powdered sugar for dusting, divided
Spray a pan with cooking spray. You can use an 8 x 8 pan or for slightly thinner marshmallows I used a 7 x 10 size pan
Sprinkle gelatin over cold water in a small bowl and let sit for 5 minutes.
Stir together the sugar, ¼ cup of the corn syrup, water, and salt in
a medium saucepan over high heat.
Bring to a boil and allow to boil, stirring occasionally, until the
temperature reaches 240°F.
While mixture is boiling, pour remaining ¼ cup corn
syrup into the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the whisk attachment.
Microwave gelatin on high until completely melted, about 30 seconds. Pour
it into the mixer bowl. Set the mixer speed to low and keep it running.
Slowly pour the hot mixture into the mixer bowl keeping the mixture running.
Increase the speed to medium and beat for 6-7 minutes until white and fluffy.
Beat in the vanilla;
Pour mixture into the prepared pan, using an offset spatula to smooth it into the corners. Sift ⅓ – ½ of the powdered sugar evenlyand generously over top. Let set for at least 6 hours in a cool, dry place.
Use a knife to loosen the marshmallow from the edges of the pan.
Turn over onto a powdered sugar dusted work surface and dust it with more
powdered sugar.
Cut into whatever size pieces you wish (a pizza cutter works
great for squares). Dip the sticky edges of the marshmallows in more
sugar, shake off the excess.

Yummy !!!

Enjoy everyone !!


Heads in the Clouds

Recently I made a cloud for a window display ……..THEN SUDDENLY IT HIT ME !! This would be perfect for a baby shower, a beautiful light in your childrens room or for the new addition to your family .

What you need :

A glue gun

Paper pop-out paper shades (i bought mine in Wilkinson or Ikea )

An old pillow (wool)

LED fairy lights battery operated

invisible strip like fish wire


Here is a video I found to make this amazing piece!!!

ENJOY !!!!!!